You've spent your life holding it together for everyone else.

The degrees are done. The career is working. From the outside, you're fine.

But you over-explain. You over-give. You say yes and then resent it. You brace for the next problem before the current one is over. You've gotten distant from family because it was easier than the conversation. And you're tired of watching yourself choose the same kind of relationship again.

None of that is a character flaw. It's usually a role you were handed early — the responsible one, the mediator, the one who couldn't fall apart — and never got to put down.

This isn't about making you smaller.

The confidence you carry into your job, into the classroom, into every room you walk into to achieve something can also be used to set a boundary, say no, or choose the right partner. It's the same version of you. Once we work through the root of the pattern, you get to bring that same confidence into your personal life, your relationships, and the way you treat yourself.

How I help

We use EMDR to work on where the pattern actually started, not just how to manage it. That includes the anxiety that hides behind competence, the guilt that follows every boundary, and the family patterns you've decided stop with you.

What to expect

Weekly one-hour virtual sessions. Most clients finish in under 18 months.

$150 per session. Insurance accepted.